You project your superego outside because in the beginning, the outside and the inside were one thing. This forms the basis of the negative judgments of the superego. The negative experiences with the mother gradually coalesce and become one big thing that is isolated from the positive part of experience. There’s no separation between the infant and the mother, so in that merged state the whole world is anger, or the whole world is frustration, or the whole world is fear. This disengagement allows you to see more clearly what is there in your experience, because if you’re entangled with these attacks, you won’t even know what you’re experiencing or what has caused the attack in the first place.īesides forming the basis of projections-such as the superego projections we’ve just discussed-the merged state in the infant’s symbiotic phase has another important aspect that we call “negative merging.” When the child has negative experiences with the mother, the whole world is felt as negative. Disengaging from the superego is, in essence, a separation from your parents-the parents you long ago internalized and have lived with in your mind ever since. Later, when the Red Essence is more readily available, it becomes possible to disengage from self-judgment simply by clearly discriminating it for what it is and not going along with it. Such an internal confrontation requires great strength and intelligence. This can happen through challenging the superego’s authority-by telling it to back off. Initially, we need to defend ourselves against these attacks by directly confronting them. Here the Red latifa can specifically be used in the service of inquiry, by giving us the strength to defend against the superego. These are the criticisms, the put-downs, the comparisons, the judgments, the devaluations, the blaming, the shaming, the rejection, and the hatred that the superego levels at you in all kinds of situations. It is relatively easy to see that much of our opaqueness, much of our lack of openness, much of our stuckness, is due to the attacks of the superego-ours and other people’s.
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